It’s 02:30 am. I can’t sleep, so I get up for a drink of water and somehow, an hour later I’m at my PC watching Friends re-runs on Netflix and playing Shop Heroes on my phone. I can’t seem to stop, even though I’m exhausted.
And I know I need to be up early to do the nursery run.
Yet, I can’t seem to turn it off and go back to bed. I guess when you’re running around doing school/nursery runs, packing lunches, doing laundry (good grief, SO MUCH laundry), tidying up the colossal amounts of toys, cleaning floors, dusting, dirty dishes, vacuuming, groceries and all the other millions of things I find myself having to do every day instead of, say, brushing my hair. I sometimes don’t have time to brush my hair so I just bunch it up into a ponytail. Although there have been days when I run out the house without having had the time to brush my teeth or even taste my morning coffee. I should just add that I carry these handy little brush ups with me for those days that I don’t quite get round to teeth brushing!
Anyway, so lately I have been struggling a lot with finding some me time. My natural instinct is to only focus on Kal. It doesn’t really matter if I have done anything during the day to make myself happy, as long as he is fed, entertained, happy and has done something productive for the day like painting or building or playing outside. His little smile lights up my insides… that should be happy enough right? Well as hard as it is to admit, your happiness is important too. A happy mummy will mean happy baby too. You don’t want to be too stressed out, as that would mean you could be short-tempered with the kids. You don’t want to take your stress out on your partner, that’s not good for the kids either. A well-balanced life is good for everyone involved!
Finding the time for yourself is pretty tough though, but it is important and you just have to make a bit of time for it. Take an hour or half an hour, at night when the kids are asleep or wake up 30min earlier in the morning. Ask your partner, if you have one, to take the kids out for a quick walk or ride their bikes around the block. It’s tough, I know, but try to make the time for yourself. Find that thing which you love doing or just something relaxing. Here are a few ideas of things you could try:
- Take up a new hobby:
- Gardening – Try indoor gardening by getting a few potted plants/herbs or even a bonsai tree.
- Knitting / Sewing / Embroidery
- Gaming (PC, Xbox, PlayStation)
- Family Tree – A lot of people find great joy in tracking down their family roots and turn it into a full-scale hobby. There is a lot of free software out there to help you do this.
- Cuddle up with a good book: I personally prefer reading on the Kindle app on my phone, not only because
- Relax in front of Netflix: Rewatch some of your favourite shows and movies or find some great new stuff.
- Have a hot, bubbly bath: Light some scented candles, drop a bath bomb and add bubbles!
- Go to the salon: Get your nails done or treat yourself to a new hairdo!
- Give yourself a manicure: The cheaper option for beautiful hands, or perhaps like me, you just don’t like having someone else do it.
- Start exercising: Going to the gym is a great relaxer if you have the time. It’s tough with a little one at home though, so if you can’t find the time, start exercising at home. It’ll help you feel great and help you find a happy balance.
- Fantasy Football: I’m not a fan of any kind of sports, not to watch anyway, but if you enjoy it try joining a fantasy football league. it can be great fun to participate with a group of friends. I’m not a fan of the game, but even I have enjoyed it in the past, playing with colleagues.